Lately I have been thinking about the concept of dynamic tensions between the areas of myself that I am well-developed, and the areas I often struggle and am not as strong. This has been a conversation that has come up multiple times in conversations with friends over the past few weeks - noticing that tension, naming it, and exploring how to work with the spectrum of my strengths in new and different ways.
It's been a long held belief of mine that leaning into what is natural and beautifully available for me is a great place to be focusing in life, and I absolutely believe there is a deep wisdom in leaning into areas that are so naturally strong within me. I feel like learning what those areas are that flow so naturally within me (rather than how I feel like I am expected to perform or be conditioned to show up) has been a powerful awakening on its own.
And I also am coming to see in my life, and in listening to friends talk about their experiences, how helpful it can be to understand the inherent tension that exists between areas that are easily strong and flowing, and the other side of that spectrum.
For example- I'm great at living in the land of flow and non-linear and ideas in my mind. It is *far* more difficult for me to translate my ideas into something concrete and tangible, to bring them into form. There are times when this is great - I love brainstorming, I can often generate a zillion possibilities, and I know I am well attuned at supporting others in getting into this creative energy for themselves too.
And then there are times when I am following idea after idea, and never quite following through on any of them. Or when I'm suggesting so many things and never completing them for myself. Starting so many blog posts and not publishing them ;)
After time this can lead to frustration, challenge and an overabundance of non-linearity in my life that doesn't feel great to me. Or rather feels like I am missing something on the other side of the spectrum.
So being aware of these tensions, in this case of the concrete form on the other side of the non-linear idea land, I am starting to bring my awareness to how this is an area of growth for me my life. I've begun moving the needle toward the middle of the spectrum a bit more, asking myself to follow through on things in as gentle a way as possible (because I am so over being harsh to myself - that's a well developed skill as well I've been desiring to kick out of my life).
Seeing these tensions, naming them, working to bring them towards balance when they feel like they've swung far into the realm of overdeveloped, this feels like creating a sense of wholeness for me. It's learning to deepen into more self awareness, balance and creating a feeling of equilibrium in my life.
So publishing this blog is one of these examples for me! Hello to finishing something I desired to start and complete :)
Are there any areas of your life where you feel you may be so well developed, perhaps you are looking to bring in some balance from the other side of the spectrum? These are areas that can feel like stretching a new muscle or bringing some new energy and a sense of wholeness into your life … experiment, see how it feels to you, and if there's anything new you learn.
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